Valentine's conundrum

For some this day brings a spark of romance to the otherwise dreary month of February, giving you an excuse to celebrate or wallow. 



The only heart shaped thing I will want this Valentine's

I however am not a Valentine's person, regardless of my relationship status. The years that I do have another half I have found myself being made to feel guilty, by friends single or otherwise, into doing something valentines related. 

Then the years I have been single I have found myself subject to questions about my single status. 

That's not to say that there have not been fun valentines days. One of my favourite memories of college of law invoked my housemate and I throwing a faux romantic night for one another then splashing in puddles on the knavesmire. Or there was the year when I went to sleep whilst being serenaded via FaceTime. 

And whilst these are great memories they would still be great memories if they were connected to another day of the year.  I do not really want grand gestures because there is an expectation of one. Instead I value the smaller day to day actions that build long and lasting relationships. 

One example is how my Dad and brother bring my mum and sister in law a cup of tea whilst in bed every morning. It's part of their rituals of love that show that they care.

I am not enamoured with valentines and the boy is mentally allergic to romantic gestures and public displays of affection. Fortunately we are on the same page and have agreed that we won't do Valentines (I also don't do anniversaries mainly because I can never remember them).

So why do I have a conundrum regarding valentines this year. It's because the Boy and I got a very good deal on a stay in New York over the valentines weekend. It's fine to be a non valentines conformist at home but in a foreign city it's a bit more difficult. 

We know that we will need to have something organised to do otherwise we could end up aimlessly wondering around to find everywhere is fully booked

So what to do?

We looked into what we could do that would not be monopolised by couples, hearts and general glittery pinkness. Due to watching too many new york based movies over the years we knew that a long walk along the Hudson or through Central Park was out. As was ice skating anywhere, a concert, the opera, the ballet, booking into a foodie restaurant or finding a cocktail bar with a view.

We came up with a short list which included going to the theatre (early or child appropriate), finding a non romantic place to eat (think diner and fast food), going to a sports game, finding a gig (not a concert), picking an action movie or thriller at a cinema.

So what have we settled on? Well for that you will have to wait and see when I get back.

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